The Emotional Ladder

Let’s continue our discussion of the emotional ladder. As I described in my last blog, some of the basic emotions that we can all identify with are love, joy, excitement, peace, contentment, boredom, irritation, frustration, anger, depression and many others that fall in between any two of these emotions. If you can visualize this emotional ladder we can take it a bit further. Emotions are based in vibration which means that the higher up you go on the emotional ladder the higher the vibration you are living in and vice a versa.

 

How can you tell if you are living in a high vibration or a low vibration? When living in a high vibration you will find that you are present, or another way of saying this is that you are in the moment. You are more apt to experience the pleasures in life. The feelings you get when you see a beautiful sunset, or enjoy an intimate conversation with your romantic partner, a mother having a baby being placed in her arms for the first time or even watching your favorite sports team win the championship. You are able to experience these moments and feel completely satisfied, and even blissful.

 

When living in a low vibration you find that you are tied to the past or future, or another way of saying this is that you are unconscious. Feelings of stress, resentment, discontentment, disappointment…the rise of anger you might feel in an argument, or when you lose your job, or when you feel you have been wronged or treated unfairly, or you are cut off while driving. In these moments, we have a choice as to whether we react unconsciously or respond from a place of peace and high vibration. If you often find yourself upset and feeling out of control emotionally, chances are you are spending time in a lower vibration.

 

Here are some ways to climb the emotional ladder and allow you to stay in the conscious, present and high vibrational space within your emotional body.

 

First, try to remember that what others say or think about you is none of your business. When you are able to stay in this frame of mind you will find that even the worst of words spoken towards you cannot take you out of your high emotional state. The process that I use in these situations is that anyone that has a negative remark of me, I will pretend that I am a mirror and that these words are reflecting back to them and that these words are their responsibility, not mine. This is very grounding to me and helps me to not get triggered. The only thing I am responsible for is myself…my own words, thoughts and actions. By remembering that another’s energy and thoughts are their business, not mine, I am able to remain in a high vibration most of the time.

 

Another way to climb the emotional ladder is to not take anything personally. This goes hand and hand that what people say is none of my business. There have been many occasions in my life that personal attacks have been thrusted upon me, only to realize that what is being said to me is not about me. Even if it is a close loved one I try to remember that what they are saying is not my responsibility and that they are hurting in some way. I know if I can stay present by not taking what they say personally then the situation will be decompressed and diffused in a matter of minutes. I also know from experience that if I compromise the situation, or succumb to the attack and reinforce it with my own beliefs that it is real, i.e. by taking what they say personally, it will be a long road of low vibrations which will make my life a living hell.

 

Another way to climb the emotional ladder is to pray for a person that I may fear, am upset or angry with. The words that I use in this situation are “I pray for help and health for so and so.” This immediately alchemizes the situation.

Here is an example: when I lived in NY I had a client that ended up in the hospital. She was about 80 at the time and had her daughter call me to see if I would come to the hospital to work on her. I said yes and that day came to see her at the hospital. We talked for a bit and I told her what I wanted to do and she agreed. As I was working on her the primary physician came into the room. His first reaction was one of distrust and suspicion. He demanded to know what I was doing. I told him that she asked me to come in to help her and so I did.

 

Long story short is that he kicked me out. At first this made me angry and upset, and it also made my client upset as well. As I was driving home I realized that I was living in the past already because all I could do was think about the conversation I had with that doctor. So I began to pray for help and health for the doctor. I said it over and over and over for quite a while. I finally found that I was in a higher vibrational state and went on with my day. By praying for the doctor, my anger had dissipated and my judgment of his judgment of me was gone. The next day at my office I got a phone call from the doctor. He asked me a few questions and after answering them he said that I could come back and work with my client.

 

There were two ways of dealing with this situation; being present and sending loving thoughts to the doctor and the situation, or taking it personally and living in the past and thinking mean and angry thoughts about the doctor and the hospital system. By not projecting judgmental thoughts about the system I was allowed to live in a high vibration and be a present and conscious person even in a chaotic situation. I am grateful that I had that conscious awareness to do this. Prayer allows me to live in a higher frequency because I am present within myself and therefore at peace with any situation that may be uncomfortable. I am not focused on the negative; I am focused on the light and beauty of the situation. I know when I pray for another I am also praying for me, because we are all connected. Prayer can change any situation into a great one.

 

So to sum up, to stay in a higher vibrational frequency on the emotional ladder try these three things:

    1) What anyone says about you is none of your business

    2) Don’t take things personally

    3) Pray for someone that you fear, are upset or angry with

I have one more way to climb the emotional ladder that I would like to share, but I will discuss this in my next blog! Thanks for reading and please feel free to share, or contact me with any questions or comments you may have.