Now let’s look at ego to pain. Using the same imagery, we can imagine that the ego is always swimming within each person, waiting for the pain to surface, be it physical or emotional pain. The pain puts out a scent that the ego can ‘smell’. Depending on the individuals overall well-being and balance, the ego is either miles away or very close to the pain. It may reach the surface quickly and boil over, or the pain may subside before the ego can even be called into action, or something in between.
If you are a person that is stressed, fatigued,
angry, and lethargic or any other low vibrational state, then the ego is always
circling close by, waiting for the emergence of pain. If you are decompressed,
energized, light, calm, or any other high vibrational state, then the ego is
miles away from the possible emergence of pain. In other words, the more
balanced you are the less chance your ego has to take over. By the time the ego
picks up the scent of the pain, the pain is healed or at the least you are in
your right mind again, and you are no longer vulnerable prey.
Make no mistake about it—the ego is out to
destroy you, just as the shark is out to kill its prey. It can and will make
every vulnerable situation ten times worse, unless you are mindful. Arguments
with loved ones, anger towards co-workers, parent/child altercations, sibling
rivalry, fights between friends, road rage…all of these painful experiences can
either be handled with love and tolerance or they can be ego-fueled, painful
and hurtful experiences. And if your ego is not busy attacking others, it will
just attack YOU. You will tell yourself that you are the dumb one, the
worthless one, the problem.
Here is the good news; we can choose to look at
the ego as something that is here FOR us. How do we do that?
Be mindful. Be present. Be aware. Some of the
best ways to achieve these states of being are by creating outlets for yourself
to decompress the stress, such as: having a meditation practice, being on a
serious spiritual path, getting energy work done, practicing yoga, or reading
spiritual literature. You have to do the work, consistently, and your spiritual
self will be able to see what the ego is up to. Your mind will be in a state that
allows you to see that rise in your blood pressure, and you will realize ‘oh, this
is my ego right now that is going crazy. My ego wants me to send that email, or
my ego wants me to say something that will really be a low-blow.’ And you will
be able to censor yourself, to take a breath, and to be still until the urge
passes.
When
this is in place, the Spiritual mind will use the ego to grow and mature. You
will find that each pain that you have is a gift to understand and grow as a
human being. You will use the ego as a barometer of sorts, a healthy tool that furthers
your understanding of your own triggers and weaknesses, and will help you
achieve balance.